Knowing where to begin with bringing adult toys into your relationship can be daunting. What toy should you start with? Are there different toys for couples versus solo? What if my partner doesn’t want to?
There are so many questions and fears that can arise when bringing in a toy to the bedroom for the first time. Maybe it’s a beloved toy you’ve always had. Maybe you’re new to buying one and don’t know where to start. You might even be afraid of your partners reaction.
All these feelings are normal but this doesn’t have to be a scary experience. With the right attitude and some gentle guidance, bringing in toys to your relationship can enhance your sexual wellness, your partner’s pleasure, and your relationship in ways you never thought possible.
Start the Conversation
Trust and communication are everything in a relationship. Don’t be afraid to open up to your partner about your curiosities and desires. It’s important not to feel ashamed or put off by the thought of your partner not reciprocating or being afraid themselves. After all, we all experience some anxiety when faced with the unknown or trying new experiences.
Start by choosing a time when you are both relaxed and alone to open up about what you would like to try, and how you would like to experience this together.
Show them some pictures of toys that you would like to try and even videos of people or couples talking about their experience with using toys together. It’s equally as important to ask your partner if there are any toys that they have thought about trying and invite them to show you too.
Do Your Research
Wellness products and adult toys are just as individual as each of us. There is such a wide variety of toys, products, and tools out there that have a whole range of effects and results that will also vary from person to person. Understanding what exciting products are out there is the key to finding what truly works for you and your partner.
Take time to explore different products and ask your friends if they have any advice on what to try. You might be surprised by how many people you know are happy to share their wellness journey stories.
Remember, the goal is not just to find ways to enhance your intimacy and pleasure, it’s also an opportunity to foster a deeper connection with your partner by learning together.
Enjoy a Shared Experience
This is where the fun really starts. Experiencing pleasure solo is exciting, but having the opportunity to bring that pleasure into your relationship can take the experience from fun to ‘WOW!’ Sharing these moments together can really solidify your bond and turn those ordinary Netflix binge nights into unforgettable adventures.
Feeling safe and secure is key to enjoying new experiences together as a couple. Some couples choose to establish ‘safe words’ and outline what each person’s clear boundaries are. This is especially helpful if you or your partner are a bit nervous or new to using adult toys, and ensures you both feel comfortable and respected, which in turn, makes it an incredibly enjoyable experience.
Once you have outlined what you are each willing or not willing to try, it’s time to experiment. Embrace this exploration with an open heart and remember the journey is all about finding pleasure together.
Reflect Together
After all that excitement and pleasure, it’s time to reconnect once more and talk about your experiences. Communication isn’t just about preparing for the experience. Speaking with your partner about what you liked or what you would like to try differently, will ensure that each experience from then on will continue to be mind-blowing.
When we open ourselves up to honest communication with our partner about what we desire in the bedroom, it becomes an opportunity to reconnect, to bond, and to increase intimacy both physically and emotionally.
Opening up after your experience can take your intimacy and connection to new heights. These reflective talks not only help to enhance pleasure in future encounters, but also deepen the emotional and physical connection between you and your partner.
We at Peachii are so passionate about wellness and helping you and your partner reconnect that we have developed a product specifically with women’s wellness in mind, that targets the clitoris and promotes a gentle, soft, and safe environment for self-exploration and pleasure. Little Pink is our signature wellness tool designed to be used either solo or as a couple, and is gentle enough to be used by beginners, with several intensity options for those wanting to try different stimulation. It can be used completely externally and so is a great toy to use without any penetration.
We’re here to bring more intimacy and connection into your bedroom and make every moment a Peachii one.
